Personalidad Tipo Seis: El Leal
The Committed, Security-Oriented Type:Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious
Generally, Sixes are reliable, hard-working, organizing, vigilant, dutiful, evaluating, persevering, cautious, anxious, believing and doubting, conservative and liberal.Excerpt from Type Six ITAR (5:21 minutes)
Sixes get into conflicts by being pessimistic, defensive, evasive, negative, worrying, doubtful, negativistic, reactive, suspicious, and blaming.
At their best, Sixes are courageous, cooperative, disciplined, grounded, secure, faithful, self-expressive, funny, and affectionate.
Recognizing Sixes
Type Six exemplifies the desire to create a stable, safe environment, to cooperate and create with others, and to be adequately prepared for the various difficulties that life presents. Sixes are meticulous, disciplined, and persevering. They are good with details, and they have a talent for seeing potential problems and dealing with them before problems get out of hand. They organize resources, prioritize tasks, and see projects through. Sixes are not necessarily "group people," but they like the feeling of "belonging" somewhere—of being part of something greater than themselves. They enjoy being of service and really want to contribute to the world. They bring reliability, responsibility, hard work, and a sense of honor to all their affairs. They approach others as if to say, "I am here for you. You can count on me."
Sixes do their best to be solid and responsible, but they are often troubled by an undercurrent of doubt and anxiety. In fact, Sixes often seem a bit jittery and uneasy in general. They live in a state of worry—and then find something to worry about. They often "scan" their surroundings for problems, expecting that something negative could happen at any time. Consequently, they are usually careful about the management of their affairs, and generally cautious in their dealings with others. At the same time, they are always on the lookout for someone they can trust, someone they can rely on. Because it takes them a while to feel confident that someone is truly on their side, Sixes will sometimes "test" people by provoking them in some way to see how they will react. Once they have decided that someone has passed the test, there is almost no limit to their loyalty or to the sacrifices that Sixes will make for the sake of the trusted person.
Sixes know that once they make a commitment, they do so 110 percent. They find it difficult to leave a relationship once they have begun to trust someone and to rely on them. Thus, they want to be sure that they are putting their energies into someone who will be there for them consistently. Once they have established a solid relationship, they show their trust and affection by supporting the other person in every way they can, especially by being reliable and trustworthy themselves.
One sign that Sixes have issues with trust is that they approach others with a sincere but cautiousfriendliness. When Sixes are relaxed, they have a natural talent for engaging people and for finding common interests. They often get others to like them by joking around and bantering, and through other forms of physical and social bonding. They want to find things about people that are familiar and that they can relate to—looking for common interests and experiences that would be the basis of trust. They tend to get nervous in situations in which they do not know where others stand—where there are too many unknowns, too many unfamiliar elements.
Fundamentally, Sixes are looking for someone to trust because they do not really trust themselves. They do not have much faith in themselves and their own abilities, so they look outside themselves to a person, a job, an authority figure, or a belief system of some sort for guidance and security. This doesn't solve their insecurity in the long run, however, because the more Sixes rely on others for their confidence, the more self-doubting and insecure they become. They will keep bouncing back and forth between depending on others and trying to prove that they are tough and independent themselves.
Some Sixes tend to collapse into their anxiety more often, feeling fearful, anxious, dependent, and openly seeking support from others. These are called "phobic Sixes." Other Sixes are more apt to impulsively leap into activities connected with their fears—such as a person with a fear of heights who decides to take up rock climbing, or a person who fears authority figures becoming a spokesperson for an antiestablishment group. These are called "counterphobic Sixes." In truth, all Sixes have both phobic and counterphobic aspects, and they express their different responses in different areas of their lives. A Six might be phobic around her boss, for instance, but behave counterphobically with her spouse.
In brief, Sixes want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity, and to have everything be predictable as a way of defending the self from threats from the environment. Sixes do not want to feel abandoned, to have uncertainty, to have contradictory expectations placed on them, to feel pressured, to have to accept new ideas rapidly, to work with people who they feel are not carrying their weight, or to have their security systems and beliefs questioned, especially by anyone they see as an outsider.
Their Hidden Side
Sixes seem like highly organized and responsible people and can often resemble Ones. But the hidden problem is that Sixes are trying to calm their inner anxieties by trying to make their external world trouble-free and predictable. Of course, this is ultimately an impossible task, but Sixes still usually persevere in the effort to make their world safe from danger and mishaps.
The real source of anxiety in Sixes is internal and is perpetuated by their constantly turning thoughts. In short, Sixes cannot stop second-guessing themselves, doubting what they know and consulting what amounts to an "inner committee" of contrary voices. ("Did I get the electric bill out this morning? Yes. I think so. Good. But what did I forget. Oh yes! I was supposed to call Maggie about lunch tomorrow. She is going to be so angry with me. Should I call her now or is it too late?") With their minds revved up in a hypervigilant state, it is almost impossible for Sixes to relax so that they can perceive clearly how to attend to the actual challenges they need to address at any given time. What Sixes really need is more inner quiet. They need to cultivate a sense of peace and inner quiet that would allow them to see and deal with reality more clearly.
Relationship Issues
Sixes can be confusing to others (and themselves) in relationships because they seem so changeable and unpredictable. In one moment, they feel nervous and want to be reassured that their partner is really on board with them. They want to know that the other person is close and available. In the next moment, they can easily feel smothered or overwhelmed by their partner and want to create some distance in the relationship. Moments later, they are looking for reassurance that they have not gone too far in being independent. In short, Sixes are seeking what psychologists call "optimal distance." They want to keep their loved ones close enough so that they will not feel abandoned but not so close that they feel engulfed by the other person. Relationship issues for Sixes include the following:
- Testing the other person to see if he or she is going to stay.
- Getting overcommitted, causing Sixes to feel pressured and taken advantage of.
- Either "clamming up" and not expressing their feelings or venting a stream of anxieties.
- Alternating between feeling dependent and needy at one extreme and feeling defiant and rebellious at the other—running "hot or cold."
- Easily becoming suspicious, reflexively doubting the goodwill of others toward them.
- Blaming people for the Six's own anxieties and projecting negative motivations onto others.
Type 6 The Loyalist and type:The Passion: Anxiety (Traditionally "Fear")
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The passion of the Six is often described as fear, but fear is an organic response to a real danger in our environment. Anxiety, on the other hand, is the anticipation of a danger or a problem. It is a sense of dread and a capacity to continually conjure worst-case scenarios in our imagination. Thus, Sixes are habitually on the lookout for potential disasters with the result that their minds are constantly agitated. Ultimately, this can leave them less prepared to deal with real problems because they are making themselves fearful imagining what could go wrong. The more anxious Sixes become, the more their minds become worked up, and the less they are able to access the quiet, inner knowing that would give them clarity about what to do.
The passion of type Six can also be expressed as doubt. Sixes seldom trust their own minds, their own capacity to know, when they are in the grip of doubt. They second-guess themselves, rechecking math they are sure they did correctly, going back to the house to make sure that they locked the door that they actually remember locking, and so forth. As we have seen, Sixes are anxious to have reliable sources of support and guidance in their lives, be they books, friends, advisors, philosophies, jobs, or anything else. But once doubt sets in, Sixes doubt that these very support systems will be there for them. They question even their most ardent supporters as their doubt gives way to growing suspicion or even paranoia.
At Their Best
Healthy Sixes are able to elicit strong emotional responses from others: they are engaging, friendly, and playful—truly likable, dependable people. They bring a sense of trust and camaraderie to their relationships and treat everyone—including themselves—as an equal. They are strongly committed and loyal to the people in their lives, and they work hard to build stability, security, and prosperity in their homes, jobs, and communities. Healthy Sixes are the foundation of any society. They believe in cooperation and shared goals, helping to organize people and tackle problems. They bring a democratic approach to their dealings with others and will fight for the powerless and disenfranchised as they would for themselves.
High-functioning Sixes become self-confident and self-affirming. They trust themselves and have learned self-reliance and independence because they know that they are deeply grounded in the limitless support of Being. Faith in this inner support and sense of guidance leads to a positive, life-affirming attitude, often manifesting itself as outstanding courage and leadership. High-functioning Sixes combine a commitment being guided by their own inner knowing with a commitment to allowing themselves to be led wherever the truth takes them. As a result, they can become powerful influences for the greater good.
Personality Dynamics & Variations
An explanation of the Directions of Integration (Security) and Disintegration (Stress) can be found here, which opens in a new window.Under Stress (Six Goes to Average Three)
Sixes are often visibly nervous, reacting with self-doubt to situations and getting caught in over-thinking a problem. When stress escalates beyond the normal level, however, they jump into action—and stay in action, trying to deal with their anxieties by working harder. If, for example, they feel pressured at work, Sixes may spend their weekend frantically doing yard chores or obsessively reorganizing the closets as a way of discharging or avoiding feelings of inadequacy. They also fear letting others know how overwhelmed they are, so they may take on a false persona of competency and efficiency, like average Threes. ("Don't worry about anything. I've got this handled.") They focus increasingly on tasks and on being efficient while cutting off from their feelings so that they can stay functional, but this can lead to major emotional problems for them and for their relationships.
Security (Six Goes to Average Nine)
In situations where Sixes feel secure, they begin to deal with stress by simply shutting down and becoming indifferent to their surroundings, like average Nines. They do not want to be disturbed or bothered by loved ones—they feel that they have been working hard and they experience virtually any kind of interaction as another source of pressure. They will be pleasant one moment, but can suddenly become stubbornly resistant and shut down in the next if they feel that others are demanding something of them. At such times, Sixes become unavailable and passive-aggressive, not wanting to respond to others or to move out of comforting but numbing routines.
Integration (Six Goes to Healthy Nine)
As Sixes learn to trust themselves more, they also become more open to life and to other people. They gradually learn to relax their hypervigilance and simply be with themselves or with whatever life is presenting in the moment. They gain a deeper acceptance of life's ups and downs such that they are not riddled with dread and anxiety. They are inclusive and supportive of others—and much more at peace. Integrating Sixes are able to let their minds rest in their natural, pristine state of clarity and inner quiet. They are able to stop second-guessing everything and let their own inner wisdom arise. The result is that they are more serene, grounded, and joyous—light and stable.
The Instincts In Brief
An explanation of the three Instincts can be found here, which opens in a new window.Self-Preservation Sixes: Responsibility (Ichazo's "Affection")
Self-Preservation Sixes find their security through safeguarding resources—money, food, property, shelter, and so forth—and tend to chronically worry about these things. ("Have the bills been paid?" "Have the car's brakes been checked recently?" "Do we have enough insurance?") They care a great deal about safety and thrift. Indeed, Self-Pres Sixes feel most secure when they are responsible for financial matters, and believe that their effective running of these affairs is something they can contribute. When they are less secure, however, they do not trust others to be responsible. They need to be constantly informed, if not entirely in control, of practical matters that affect them. Self-Pres Sixes can be funny and friendly and want to be involved and engaged, but they have difficulty relaxing, especially around unfamiliar others. They are more introverted and more likely to be loners than the other Sixes. When more stressed, they may stay in punishing situations longer than they should (bad jobs, bad marriages) or become concerned with having control of resources, like a less healthy Eight.
Sexual Sixes: Feisty Vulnerability (Ichazo's "Strength and Beauty")
Sexual Sixes get their sense of security primarily from their emotional bond with a significant other. But they also have many doubts, both about their own ability to have a suitable mate and about the mate's ability or willingness to really be there for them. Sexual Sixes often manifest a tension between their gender roles: they are both masculine and feminine, "macho" and coquettish. Moreover, Sexual Six women have a tough, tomboy side to them but still come across as feminine. Similarly, the men of this Variant display a sensitivity and vulnerability while being essentially masculine. Sexual Sixes also tend to be emotionally intense, like Eights and Fours. Part of this comes from anxiety about their ability to keep a strong, capable partner. Thus, Sexual Sixes try to cultivate their masculine or feminine attributes in order to find a good partner and, later, to remain appealing to this person. Often, they feel most comfortable relating to members of the opposite sex and may feel competitive with the same sex. They also tend to test their significant others to see if they are strong enough and to make sure that they are really committed to the relationship. When more stressed, Sexual Sixes can be emotionally volatile, with their feelings about people changing strongly and suddenly. They fall into suspiciousness about their partner and can be quite jealous, while at the same time feeling a strong need to "prove" their desirability.
Social Sixes: Generating Support (Ichazo's "Duty")
Social Sixes look for security in the social sphere—that is, through their affiliations with different people and organizations. They are warm, engaging, and humorous, trying to send out the message that they are approachable and safe. They like to enlist people, getting others involved in projects or activities they see as worthwhile. Social Sixes frequently volunteer to work in groups and committees. They do not necessarily enjoy doing this, but they see it is necessary and so are willing to give their time and energy. They want to be regarded as regular guys or gals and may have difficulty taking stands that would be unpopular in their peer groups. They seek consensus before moving ahead with their agendas and they want to feel that others are "with them," backing them up. Although Social Sixes like being involved, they often become nervous about holding positions of responsibility because they are afraid that they will have to make decisions that others will not like, thus losing their support. When more insecure, their suspiciousness may lead them to form in-groups and out-groups in the workplace or in other social or societal areas.
The Levels of Development
An explanation of the nine Levels of Development can be found here, which opens in a new window.Below is the complete Levels of Development diagram for Type Six. The levels range from most healthy, Level 1, to least healthy, Level 9. To understand these charts, start with the Basic Fear, at the top right of the chart. This fear gives rise to the Basic Desire, which is the Desire at the second level of health, the Level of Psychological Capacity.
The Desire of each level gives rise to the internal Attitudes (the A-Terms) of each level, which create the external Behaviors (the B-Terms). Over time, due to internal conflicts, these behaviors and attitudes create another layer of Fear at that level.
Each new Fear generates yet another desire at the next lower level, which gives rise to a new set of attitudes and behaviors, creating a spiral structure in which a person becomes increasingly enmeshed in self-destructive reactions and increasingly terrifying fears. The process of growth is to become aware of each of the cluster of attitudes and behaviors as they occur, bringing conscious awareness into the moment. As we do this, the underlying fears and desires also begin to emerge into consciousness, and the person begins to shift up the levels.
For more about this process see Wisdom of the Enneagram, and Personality Types.
| PERSONALITY TYPE SIX: The Loyalist | ||||||
Parental Orientation: Attachment with the Protective-figure | ||||||
| B-TERMS | A-TERMS | DESIRES | FEARS | |||
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| THE HEALTHY LEVELS: | ||||||
| Self-Actualization: | Basic Fear: | |||||
| 1.Level of Liberation | ||||||
| Courageous intrepid indefatigable synergistic self-expressive decisive effortless |  | Real Faith self-affirming independent secure positive-thinking grounded quiet mind | | Lets go of their identification with a particular self-that they must rely on someone or something outside themselves for security | Of being lost: without support and guidance | |
Basic Desire:  | Secondary Fears: | |||||
| 2. Level of Psychological Capacity  | ||||||
| Reliable dependable trustworthy steadfast "regular" careful have foresight prepared | | Vigilant alert engaging identifying faithful trusting/ questioning bonding likable | | To find security and support (to belong somewhere) | Of being unreliable, ungrounded, unprepared their anxiety will undo their security | |
| Secondary Desires: | ||||||
3. Level of Social Value  | ||||||
| Cooperative persevering meticulous craftsmanship egalitarian hard-working thrifty community builder learners | | Committed responsible disciplined practical action-oriented respectful self-sacrificial methodical "stewardship" | | To prove to themselves and others that they are solid and trustworthy | Of not being enough to create and maintain their security | |
| THE AVERAGE LEVELS: | ||||||
| Social Role: The Stalwart | ||||||
| 4. Level of Imbalance | ||||||
| Investing loyal organizing analyzing troubleshooting safeguarding camaraderie questioning second guessing performing | | Dutiful obligated "covering bases" insecure seeking approval convinced/ doubting attached to systems/ beliefs seeking orientation competitive | | To create and sustain support systems — to form systems and alliances with others | That they cannot meet conflicting demands (of different allies or authorities) | |
| 5. Level of Interpersonal Control  | ||||||
| Defensive evasive/ defiant passive- aggressive testing scrutinizing indecisive complaining moody, terse mind reading chameleonic | | Cautious suspicious feel pressured ambivalent anxious negative skeptical tense, grumpy amnesia of success image-conscious | | To resist having any further demands or obligations placed on them (to assert themselves without appearing to do so) | That they will not be able to handle their mounting pressures (that their world is coming apart) | |
| 6. Level of Overcompensation | ||||||
| THE UNHEALTHY LEVELS: | ||||||
| 7. Level of Violation | ||||||
| Unreliable unpredictable "bad company" cowardly, jumpy thrashing self-defeating non-communicative connect/ hide untrustworthy | | Panicky inferiority feelings feel helpless depressed skittish no confidence dependent/ rebellious "tightly wrapped" unscrupulous | | To have the protection of astronger ally while asserting independence | That the little security they have left will be destroyed | |
| 8. Level of Delusion & Compulsion | ||||||
| Hysterical irrational lashing out fanatical, ranting violent scapegoating erratic, addictive self-humiliating betraying | | Paranoid hateful desperate anxiety-ridden obsessive conspiratorial submissive/ controlling masochistic/ sadistic duplicitous | | To bring their uncertainty and anxiety to an end by any means (to defend their remaining security) | That they will be punished for what they have done | |
| 9. Level of Pathological Destructiveness | ||||||
| Self-Destructive inviting disgrace suicidal dropping out "skid row" heedless vicious | | Auto-Abasingself punishingguilt riddentormentedself condemnatoryself hatingsadistic | | To escape punishment (and atone for their guilt) | Basic Fear comes true: they are not able to survive on their own: they are abandoned | |
Personal Growth Recommendations
for Enneagram Type Sixes
Sixes grow by recognizingque la única seguridad real en la vida viene de dentro. Si bien podemos trabajar duro para construir nuestras finanzas, para encontrar los amigos adecuados y el socio adecuado, y para prever cualquier posible percance, en última instancia, ninguna de las estructuras externas que utilizamos para darnos confianza siempre trabajar para nosotros. Las cosas pueden y deben ir mal, y los apoyos que dependemos cambian inevitablemente. Por lo tanto, el crecimiento de los Seis implica encontrar el apoyo de su propio conocimiento interno. Se trata de encontrar el lugar dentro de sí mismos que es tranquilo, fuerte y capaz. Pero esto no puede suceder por sí mismo. El descubrimiento de estos recursos internos requiere tiempo y trabajo, aunque, afortunadamente, Seises entender la utilidad de la perseverancia y dedicación. Seises conocerá de primera mano el valor de descubrir sus recursos internos cuando toman tiempo para relajar su vigilancia constante y encontrar la fe en sí mismos. for Enneagram Type Sixes
- Usted tiende a conseguir nervioso y quisquilloso cuando está molesto o enojado, y puede incluso convertirse en otros y culparlos por cosas que has hecho o que se señalan en el mismo. Sea consciente de su pesimismo: te provoca estados de ánimo oscuro y patrones de pensamiento negativos que tienden a proyectar sobre la realidad. Al sucumbir a esta duda de sí mismo, puede convertirse en su peor enemigo y causarle daño a sí mismo más que nadie más lo hace.
- Seises tienden a reaccionar de forma exagerada cuando están bajo estrés y sensación de ansiedad. Aprenda a identificar lo que te hace reaccionar de forma exagerada. También darse cuenta de que casi ninguna de las cosas que has temido tanto en realidad se ha hecho realidad. Incluso si las cosas están tan mal como usted piensa, sus pensamientos temerosos usted y debilitan su capacidad para cambiar las cosas para mejor. No siempre se puede mange eventos externos, pero usted puede manejar sus propios pensamientos.
- El trabajo en cada vez más confiada. Hay, sin duda, varias personas en su vida que usted puede acudir a quienes se preocupan por usted y que son dignos de confianza. Si no es así, salir de su manera de encontrar a alguien digno de confianza, y permita acercarse a esa persona. Esto significa correr el riesgo de rechazo y removiendo algunos de sus miedos más profundos, pero el riesgo vale la pena tomar. Tienes un don para hacer que la gente como tú, pero no está seguro de sí mismo y puede tener miedo de hacer un compromiso con ellos. Por lo tanto, desciende claramente en un lado u otro de la valla en sus relaciones. Que la gente sepa cómo se siente acerca de ellos.
- Otros probablemente piensan mejor de ti de lo que cree, y pocas personas son realmente tratando de hacerte daño. De hecho, sus miedos le dicen más sobre sus actitudes hacia los demás de lo que indican las actitudes de los demás hacia ti.
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